The first date is usually the worst date. Not because it fails in every part, or you argue all night with your date. It's the worst because you are aiming to please - and you never know if you're doing a good job. Well, the answer to your efforts is all in the signs your date gives as the evening progresses.

Some women are subtle, and some are brutal. If she doesn't like you or isn't having a good time, she'll either spell it out (loud and clear), or she may hint as the night moves along. On the other hand, if she is having a great time, you'll know for sure by the way she acts and speaks. Knowing what actions and words to look for will clue you in on how the date is really going.

Actions do speak louder than words. Often, people are afraid to say what's on their minds because they don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. So, in order to get the point across, they act it out. If you're sitting at a table with your date, and you find that she is really far away, it's a sign that things aren't going so good. However, if she sits next to you, maybe brushing your knee with hers, you've got it made.

While driving in the car (which is the ice-breaking point on first dates), you can see immediate signs of interest or boredom. When a woman slightly turns her body toward you, she is giving a clear sign of interest. This means she is actually listening to what you are saying, and she immerses herself in the moment. Sitting straightforward is a sign of nervousness, so don't mistake it for boredom. Looking out the window (in the opposite direction of you), however, is a sign that she's ready to jump out and run. She's obviously not fully engaged in your conversation. Likewise, she's not taking the time to observe your physique or actions. If you receive her full attention, you're on the right path.

Conversation is the biggest part of a first date because it is the means of introduction and discovery. Usually, first dates include many questions. And if the date is going good, both people are doing the asking. If your date doesn't ask you questions about yourself, then she probably won't care to ever know. However, if you find yourself in a flood of questions about your life history, get ready for romance.

When speaking with a woman and asking her questions, she'll show the signs by way of reply. If she dishes out a lot of sarcastic answers, there may not be much more to talk about. Of course, if she answers directly then follows with "What about you?"…it's a good sign.

Eye contact is probably the number one sign that can make or break a first date. When the two of you are conversing, and your eyes are set on one another, the evening will blossom in splendor and romance. If she gazes boringly at her food while you ramble on, it's a sure sign that the date will only keep going downhill. Anytime someone makes eye contact, it usually means they have a true interest. Eyes tell the truth.

Whatever the sign, you must recognize it. How embarrassing is it to imagine that the evening went perfect, and you'll see each other again, when in reality she had a terrible time. Pay close attention to her actions and remarks. Listen to her tone and see how often she smiles throughout the night. If the signs spell romance, you will probably have a long, pleasant night.

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