Being a Partner in the Relationship

            So you thing you’ve found the right one. Someone you have everything in common with, and it’s almost like you are reading each other’s mind at any point in the day. You’re ready to ask for a relationship. This is nothing to take lightly, as you are looking for a firm commitment with this person, and want to make it worth your time and theirs as well. We’ve formulated a check list to determine if you’re ready to take that step, or if the thrill of someone and something new is taking over your senses.

• You’ve already had a good amount of dates and the conversation keeps going. If it’s already been a few months and you are both struggling to find things to talk about, maybe it’s not the personality you’re both attracted to. Maybe it’s the eh-hem bedroom sports you’re both finding a thrill from.
• You’ve seen where they live. Some people are messy, and some people cringe at the sight of dust. Which are you? Which are they? If you can’t match in your level of cleanliness, one of you will constantly be cleaning up after the other, creating resentment. If you see eye- to- eye about wiping off the counter, most likely you will see eye-to-eye in moving the relationship forward to eventually living together.
• You can handle their little quirks. Does she constantly go around your place and straighten out the towels? Does he have the bad habit of flipping from channel to channel between commercials? Can you live with these quirks, or are they going to drive you crazy in the long run? Now is a time to take a good look at them, because you’re not in this to change the person. If you want to change the person, then they aren’t the one for you.
• Let’s talk children. Some people want to have a big, huge family and believe family is what makes life worth living. Some people run screaming at the sight of a little rug-rat. Get this cleared up early on. This is a biggie, as it can be a deal breaker at any point in the relationship. We’re not saying to sit down and discuss when you are going to have kids together. Just stick your toe in and see if the water is warm or freezing.
• Most of us want a career. Key word here – most. While the thought of the happy housewife is slowly dying, the thought of the happy househusband is coming around. Do you want to be with someone who plans on maintaining the household while you’re away at work? Or do you want someone to contribute to the family finances just as much as you do? These are good issues to work out early on. If someone is carrying the other financially, and not by choice, you’ve got another deal breaker.

 Once you’ve run through this check list, it’s easier to decide if this is the person for you, or if it’s just a passing phase. Remember, you joined the online dating world to find the right person, but those in-between people can be a hand full of fun as well!

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